We have yet to get answers about what happened to Bobbi Kristina, but it’s never too soon to start taking grief more seriously. Here’s what you can do if you have someone grieving in your life.
1. Look for signs of pain. In Bobbi Kristina’s case, she tweeted about missing her mom. If you see something like this, acknowledge it and let the person know you are there.
2. Don’t assume pain goes away quickly. Our grief is as unique as our fingerprints, but generally grief lingers much longer than we think. Three years, as in Bobbi Kristina’s case, is not a lot of time. Reach out to the person in grief and check on them. Don’t wait for them to ask you for help.
3. Keep an eye out for triggers. For instance, the Whitney Houston movie could have been a trigger. The Super Bowl in January may have been one-her mother had sung the Star Spangled Banner. The Grammys-her mother died the night before three years earlier. For your neighbor, it could be something in the news that relates to the person who passed. It could be a birthday or a holiday. Whatever it is, be sensitive to it.
4. Double your attention around anniversaries. Some people don’t want to mention an anniversary for fear of reminding the griever. Let me tell you, the person in grief remembers. Don’t be afraid to let them know you remember and care.
5. Recognize risky behavior as a cry for help. Abusing drugs, hanging out with the wrong crowd and other harmful behavior are signs. Get the person the help they need.
For all of our safety, we must see that in grief we are often much more fragile than previously thought. Remember the five ways to help above, but also know that sometimes your love is not enough, especially for our young. Sometimes you need to make sure the person in grief gets professional care.
Bobbi Kristina’s death is a painful lesson for all of us that if the love is real, grief is real as well. Our hearts are with Bobbi Kristina’s family.
Reach out to someone you know in grief right now. Let them know you care.
This article originally appeared on HuffingtonPost.com.
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